Love the Teen You Have: A Practical Guide to Transforming Conflict Into Connection

A practical, research-informed parenting guide from pediatric psychologist and parent coach Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart that helps parents strengthen relationships and guide teens through adolescence with empathy, clear strategies, and connection-building tools.

When it comes to parenting teens, the relationship you share is the foundation for all good things. Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart—an experienced pediatric psychologist and parent coach—offers insight into the emotional, social, and cognitive changes that tweens and teens experience and shows how parents can transform conflict into meaningful connection. Drawing on clinical expertise and relatable stories, Lockhart provides practical tools for discipline with love, building executive functioning skills, supporting mental health challenges like ADHD and anxiety, and reparenting yourself so you don’t pass on old patterns. With warmth, actionable strategies, and compassionate guidance, this book invites caregivers to reconnect with their adolescents and enjoy these complex but rewarding years together.

“Reading this book feels like having a trusted friend (who also happens to be an expert) confidently guiding you through those moments when parenting feels most confusing… a breath of fresh air.” – Laura Petix, founder of The OT Butterfly and author of A Kids Book About Neurodiversity.

“A must-read for any parent navigating the unpredictable, messy, and beautiful journey of raising a teen in this age.” – Leslie Josel, founder of Order Out of Chaos.